What we attract will always mirror the qualities we have or the beliefs that we have.  When we have a strong negative reaction to someone, they are likely reflecting traits that we also possess but have been unwilling to embrace. The same would be true about someone possessing the positive traits we believe we have.  You could not attract them or have them in your life, the way they are, if they didn’t complement your life.

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When you can recognize yourself in others, it will be easier for you to connect with them, which ultimately helps to maintain your own emotional well-being.  You will also be able to identify those negative traits that you want to change within yourself.

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Let’s look at someone in your life who either bothers you, or you love being around.  Describe 3 things about this person that you don’t like, things you want him or her to change. Now, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths. Look deep within and ask yourself Am I like that or when do I do the same annoying things?  Really be honest with yourself.  Now ask yourself are you willing to change.  When you stop doing, remove these habits, or beliefs from your thinking and behavior, either the other person will also change, or they will leave your life.  You can repeat this exercise for the positive people in your life, and you will see that you also have those same positive traits.